Perfect honeymoon 6 large predators
Monday, January 19th, 2009Estrangement and contradictions, bickering, conflict at any point … … A single spark can immediately your hard earned vacation sweet ashes. Here, teach you how to have a perfect holiday travel.
Do you belong to you are planning to travel two people? Think through the holidays to keep their relationship a hammer thoroughly get? Ah, ideas very well, but - tens of millions do not worry, calm and cool - the romantic French “Yuanyang trip” is, of course, each pair
Lovers dream, but maybe you are facing the reality of the situation is far worse than your fantasy. The surface, like a mini-vacation “utopia” as fascinating. But, in fact, somewhat inadvertently, your holidays will become all the breeding ground for discord issues. Faced with a variety of objective and subjective question hobbies, views, habits, style … … any difference between the two men are likely to give you the “quasi-honeymoon” a fatal blow. If you do not want to allow their own “trip to paradise,” eventually become a “trip to hell”, you need to do is read below, and understand and holiday travel out of these “enemies.”
One natural enemy: the objective pressure
Intense commercial negotiations, traffic congestion, long wait for security checks, will let you in little by little in the passage of time gradually lose their energy. When energy depletion, patience will also be volatile and emotional stress can all thoroughly and completely to beyond recognition, including you, also including his.
This is well understood, in reality this kind of thing is also a frequent occurrence. Typically, such a holiday in order, you will be ready to do so many, and some may even be dragged out until the completion of clinical, such as the work of the handover, pet placement, clean up the home goods, etc. swimsuit purchase. When you are tired body was finally pulled out of all this, after all of a sudden found airport screeners have to wait one hour a full team, you can exercise restraint and to live their luggage screeners head and then the impulse to do a U-turn to go home? Extreme fatigue of the brain can cause a short circuit in an instant and without taking into account all eyes.
Therefore, how to release tension and relieve tired of nerves, it does not affect your journey is a sweet deal with the pressure of this objective “gold killer” key. There are two tips:
First, get a clear understanding of the target to launch an attack is that it, rather than him - all in mind the objective contradictions can not be translated into subjective between you two contradictory
Second, always look ahead - hard to finally come not? Tell each other: “This road is like a nightmare finally ended, however. As long as we together, there will be no difficulties make life difficult!” Once the objective to feel the pressure of a light on the mentality of trying to face it. More discussion to discuss where to go to play, eat what the good things, illusions about stroked belly full of delicious, a big sleep sleep at noon taste, what troubles, pressure, immediately went to Cloud Nine are thrown.
Natural enemies bis: excessive spending
First of all, to make it clear that here the “excessive” does not only refer to the excessive, but not an appropriate amount and method. In what areas to spend money, how much money to spend often represents a person’s values, so the contradictions in the money aspect is the contradiction between the values. In order to prevent this at every turn, it is easy to produce sensitive issues, money, or on those of you that the value of both places when better. In fact, as long as a little plan together before you: you the total holiday budget, on top of how much to eat, play on the number above, on top of the number of shopping … … will be able to avoid the vast majority of conflicts on the spending . Probably had a plan, even if the temporary change, but also targeted and timely adjustments. Experts on this issue the proposal is: you take into account the wishes of two people. For example, lunch to eat in accordance with what he meant relatively thrifty, and dinner you can convince him in accordance with your wishes for a more hearty meal.
Preferably before any action is to discuss with each other, both out of you interested in a list, and then follow it, do not easy to spend money on, “was happy it was unhappy,” where such an outcome acceptable to believe you. If you or a if one may wish to simply condone their own, but do not remember too much.
The three natural enemies: Zhi different substandard Fun
The ancients said: different, non-phase plan - if so I suggest you, you do not come to see me scared I would feel sorry. The ancients also goes: the broader picture - but this too is not you looking forward to a holiday for two years under the premise of foul things up before we can consider everything from we started until now been followed for thousands of years the doctrine of the mean can not just give that simple. Become more intimate is the purpose of your holiday, but there is no fun, intimate idle talk? In fact, you do not need to force him to sit with you to see the sunset, but also do not have to force myself to go out hiking with him, you can not have everything shouting together - this is real comfortable and happy. He likes to do their own thing is not necessarily a bad thing, you can take to enjoy their own happiness, and then come up with this happy to share with each other.
If you can go one step further and try to participate in each other’s interest is a good thing - and come up with a feeling to meet each other’s spiritual needs, the character itself will be able to let you get great value for money pleasure, right? The most important thing is, you are no longer “You do not XXXX, I do not XXXX” tit-for-tat of the two opposing sides, but mutual love, mutual consideration of a right.
Natural enemies of the four: polarities “interested”
Since it is a quasi-honeymoon, how can less had physical enjoyment? But often the lives of normal sexual orientation differences in the road makes it especially clear that even affected the feelings and emotions, resulting in two substandard. If you enjoy the softer style, and he was obsessed with the passion and venting, it may try to accept his reasons, try to experience the fun of bold look rough. If it can not accept, but also put forward the strategy, telling of his own will take some time to adapt.
There is also a possibility of the contrary - you are the kind of strong woman of passion, and he was more like to spend time on sleep on. This situation is not dire, relatively speaking, you need to do is think of ways to stimulate the adoption of the outside world so that his testosterone secretion so that on more than OK. There are many ways, the right amount of outdoor activities, to break the conventional way of sex, unusual places, provocative language movements and so on are often able to receive.
Five enemies: self-space
Whether you and me, there will be a time when hope alone. In the quasi-honeymoon in, how do you deal with this problem? In order to take into account the suppression of his own idea is obviously not a good way, to know that we can not be released unstable complex can only give you more and more difficult journey. Do not be afraid because he was not happy about to give up all the space that belongs to them.
Issues of course not that simple, self-space is important, ways and means of wrong, it will be very easy for him, “I can not let her be satisfied,” the feeling, that feeling sooner or later you will ruin the future of both. There is a know-how, whenever this may be the privilege of showing girls - Miss temper, or even appears to own ignorance, naive, ignorant of everything, that is, do not let him think you are worried, full of feelings. Of course, you can also choose a more honest approach: he confessed that they need to change their brains, I would like to walk home alone, after an hour will come back. But we must remember that time, or else had a good time and we did not see that your people, maybe he will think you have a- men, sometimes is so nervous.
Six predators: bicker, pinch frame,meet
There is no quarrel on earth couple, but this should be sweet and the United States and the United States during the trip with him on a stem may have been too worth. Perhaps you have played on weekdays in a very tough battle may ultimately unabated and good, but if such a battle took place in quasi-honeymoon trip on the unfavorable.
A large extent, depends on the contradictions in the direction of development of the mentality of your own. First, you must be clear what the situation was truly worthy of you furious. Imagine He invited the road to get to know new friends with alcohol, resulting in damage to your planned originally belongs only to you two of the romantic tunes, which should not be grabbing his and matured a little now, if he oversleep because you forgot to wake him to see a sunrise and blame you, you think you two will be interesting to the future of it? Secondly, even if what he really does not do well where you furious with himself, should also be the spirit of compassion dauntless spirit, Neway point out the generosity of women, in order to him, as well as to you, in order to associate your honeymoon, but also To your future, with tolerance to carry you all the treasure’s feelings. Easier said than done, to a fit of anger, that is how the fire could gather to do?
Teach you a good idea: a stay of execution for one hour. Whenever you feel the need to break out, telling myself: “over an hour to find him scared!” That’s not remind ourselves of this in silence, but a little slow about it - did not feel his loss, is better to accept, is not it ? The next one hour, calmly take a break, an hour later, in all likelihood you will find a better hand than the previous solution. Of course, not always suggest that you- when the holidays end, you both home also after a different matter.